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Welcome Ladies

All right gals, it's our time to chat. As you have already read from our home page, we are not professionals and we are only trying to help people with some of their questions through things that we have gone through. Steve & I have been married for 45+ years and we are going strong. That doesn't mean we haven't had our share of problems, we have, but if you love someone with your whole heart, you will do whatever you need to, to work through the trials and tribulations. Believe me, I can truly say that I love Steve more today than I did when we got married in 1971. Of course we had AWESOME examples of what Love can conquer. Both of our parents were together until death parted them in 2000. Neither of our Dads were interested in finding other partners, as once you've experienced the best, there is no one who could compare, to their wives. They stayed widowers until they passed away in 2004.

Remember to tell your husbands daily that you love them, as no one is guaranteed tomorrow. A hug and kiss will go along way, read A Trucker’s Last Letter to remind you how fast your life can be gone, so don't forget to tell your husbands how much you love them and appreciate them daily. I know that I do and I have a richer marriage because of it.

Communication

Girls Talking

This is a hard one. I have always struggled with trying to get my feelings across, as I have felt that what I have to say doesn’t really matter. That was do to the feelings of insecurities that I always seemed to have hanging over my head. I felt that what I had to offer was stupid, and that I wasn’t as smart as someone who had more schooling than me. Then I came across the letter I’m Special. If you haven’t had a chance to read it yet, now would be a perfect time to do so.

One way that I have overcome these feelings, is to go for walks with Steve. We used to walk in the evenings and we would just talk. It’s funny how when you are relaxed, you just naturally have a tendency to “open” up the lines of communication. We talk about anything that comes to mind, Whether it be a problem that we can’t seem to get the answer to, or just how much I love him. You cannot tell your spouse too much how much you appreciate and love him. We have a saying in our house that goes like this, “Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I (we) may not agree with that opinion, but you are entitled to it anyway.” There are times that Steve and I do not agree on things, but through the lines of communication, we always seem to come to an agreement. It is not one person always giving in to the other, but it is coming to a compromise when you can’t totally agree on something. Maybe just change the situation a little and the problem will not seem as large as it did before.

I am a great listener, but that is not what communication is about. It is about SHARING your thoughts and your feelings for that matter with another person. What that other person has to input may be just what you are needing at the time. They may have the answer that has so eluded you up to this point.

Couples Walk

Remember, that if you fail to communicate what you are feeling, you are setting yourself up for failure in your relationships. If someone has offended you in some way, you need to confront that matter, or it will just fester. You know what happens when you have a wound that gets infected. It gets all infected and ugly looking, and you don’t want your attitude to get that way. You want to be the best wife that you can be. All these tips can also apply towards any other relationships that you might have, Parents, Children, Girlfriends, Male friends, co-workers, you name it. Everyone needs someone to talk with that they can just let their hair down, so to speak, and not have to worry about being judged. Remember, we are not to judge lest we be judged in return.

I hope these tips have helped you out. I have to daily remind myself that communication is a good thing. It helps me be me. If you want to leave a comment for me, visit our contact page. I think it’s time for a walk.

What Is Love?

That is a question that we all ask ourselves at times. If I had to define Love, it is a bond, a personal attachment or a deep affection between two people. Attributes of love can be found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a, (Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails). This scripture says it all. There were times in my childhood that I felt that I wasn’t loved, it wasn’t true at all, but just due to circumstances, that was the feelings that I had.

Steve & I got married when I was 16 years old. A lot of people thought that we were nuts, and that our marriage would not last, but they have had to swallow what they said as we have proved them wrong. Here is a little saying that I came across the other day that sums up my feelings when we got married. Do not marry a person that you know you can live with; only marry someone that you cannot live without. WOW. Powerful statement.

You know the feeling that you got when your mate was near, Goosebumps and just plain giddy. I remember those days, I felt the same way when Steve kissed me earlier. Goosebumps. Read Installing Love for a cute story on Love, it will make you look at things a little differently.

Steve & I have 2 children and 3 beautiful grandkids. My heart feels like it will burst with pride. Each one of you if you have children should be proud of who they are. Granted, they might not be everything that you had hoped for them, but they are Blessings all the same. I ran across some cute things that grandkids say. Check out Grandmas and Grandkids for a few laughs. Hope you enjoy them. Remember, you can’t tell someone that you love them too much.

Hi Gals!

Have you ever felt like you were worth nothing. That you were stupid, and that nothing you did seemed right. Everything that you tried to do, seemed to flop. Well, JOIN THE CLUB! I have felt that way many a times. I came across this story called I'm Special and it changed my whole outlook on the way I value myself now. Before I had very low self-esteem, never believing that I would amount to anything, let alone do something that might actually be an accomplishment. STOP THAT NEGATIVE THINKING! You must stop listening to anyone who is putting you down. YOU ARE WORTH SOMETHING.

It's time to realize that you are special. Remember that saying from a few years back...God doesn't make junk. It's true. Each and every one of us has a plan and a purpose for our lives, whether it be a DR. saving peoples' lives or a janitor scrubbing toilets. Each person is just as important to God as the next. There are no "favorites" in Gods' household. All are treated equal. It's time to put all the hurts from the past behind you and to move forward. If you continue to wallow in your past hurts, you will never be content with yourself. You must move past those hurts and disappointments of past failures. Not only will you feel god about yourself, but you will not be carrying a burden around anymore. Those burdens can weigh you down, and keep you from accomplishing all that God has for you. Remember: You are Special!

I'm Special

Recipe For Love

Apron

I found this little Recipe that talks about marriage. If you "cook" with this recipe, your marriage will never be "under cooked" or "over baked", it will be just perfect. I think with a little work on your part, this will be one of your favorite recipes. Bon A Petit!

Recipe For A Happy Marriage

1 cup of consideration
1 cup of courtesy
2 cupfuls flattery carefully concealed
2 cupfuls milk of human kindness
1 gallon faith in God and each other
2 cupfuls praise
1 small pinch of in-laws
1 reasonable budget
A generous dash of cooperation
3 teaspoons of pure extract of "I am sorry"
1 cup of contentment
1 cup each of confidence and encouragement
2 children at least
1 large or several small hobbies
1 cup of blindness to the other's faults

Flavor with frequent portions of recreation and a dash of happy memories. Stir well and remove any specks of jealousy, temper, or criticism. Sweeten well with generous portions of love, and keep warm with a steady flame of devotion. Never serve with a cold shoulder or hot tongue!

Best Friends

I can honestly say that Steve is my Best Friend. Your spouse should be that to you. Yes, you can have other friends that you consider to be a best friends, but your mate should be your first best friend. You should be able to tell your mate anything that is on your heart.

Girlfriends

I have a super best friend that I talk "girl" talk with, but my inner most secrets belong to Steve. I can sit and talk to my super best friend for hours, but it is different with your mate. I'm not saying that you can't have a special "girlfriend" or two, that you can relate to, but it is your mate that should be the closest to you. Read this little story called The Truth About Girlfriends. I think it is has some things that you might not of thought about.

I can tell Steve anything without feeling that he is going to put me down, or think that what I have to say is stupid. You know how you can just sit and talk and talk with your Best Friend, well, that is the way it is with us. A couple of hours talking with Steve, feels like minutes, because I am interested in what he has to say, and vise versa, he is interested in what I have to say.

You know how you can just lay in bed with your spouse and just talk, Steve and I do that a lot. It is the accumulation of our day, we lay there and we seem to unwind. It is very relaxing just laying there listening to what he has to say. It is the intimacy that most marriages have a tendency to lack. Try just laying there with your spouse and really listen to what he has to say, you might be surprised to find out that he has been wanting this type of intimacy for a long time. Try it, you might like it.

Another Best friend that I have is my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He is the super glue that bonds our marriage together. If you don't know Christ as your personal Savior, take a look at Do I need Jesus, for more information. Please feel free to leave us a comment if you need any assistance. We need Jesus as a part of our marriage.

Beauty Is Only Skin Deep

Most women want to be beautiful, who wouldn't. I came across a story that talks about being ugly, called I want to be Ugly. After reading this story, it kind of makes you think about what people really see. I know that I want people to look at me and see the inner beauty rather than the outward shell, as I know in the eyes of some, I am not a real beauty, but it is what's inside that is important. From now on I WANT TO BE UGLY!

Hug
Hug

A HUG
Is a perfect gift! One size fits all and nobody minds if you exchange it!.

Relationships

I want to share a few things about Building a Love Relationship. If you follow some of the ideas in this little article, you will be surprised at how your relationship will blossom. into a beautiful bouquet. Remember the love that you felt for your mate when you were dating, those feeling shouldn’t diminish just because you have a few years of marriage under your belt. They should be just as strong if not stronger than when you got married. We may have changed our outward appearances, but the inside should still be the same. We need to build on our relationship on a daily basis, as we do not want them to stale, we want them fresh as the day we first pledged our love to each other. With a little work, we can have a marriage that lasts a lifetime. I know that I am working for that kind of marriage. Till death do us part, is a vow that I take seriously.

If you haven’t had a chance to read Marriage and God to find out what God has to say about marriage, now would be a good time to read it.